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Hello, and welcome! I am a TCK (Third Culture Kid). My life experiences range all the way from living in a thatched-roof hut in the jungle, to a high-paying tech career in California.

Recently, I have come full circle, and realized that the people of the tribal village I grew up in, in the South American jungle, remain some of the best friends I ever had. My username, Uyakon, is taken from their language. It means "little brother."


Just finished listening to

Josh Harris and his ideas about courtship and such ("I Kissed Dating Goodbye") were massively influential in my young life. To hear and see him changing course so completely, and apologizing for the ways in which his book has hurt people, is very powerful for me. And the host, Nadia Bolz-Weber, has such grace-filled words of blessing for Josh and for the listeners. It really is a must-listen, in my opinion.

My younger sister and brother have both been phone banking a lot in recent weeks. And they plan to continue doing so right up until Election Day. I'm pretty proud of them for doing that. Not sure that phone banking is for me though.

I'm getting involved in other ways. Like signing online petitions regarding the U.S. Postal Service. And supporting local Black-owned businesses. Specifically, two Black-owned restaurants in the area serve REALLY good food at extremely reasonable prices. Good stuff!

One thing I have realized is that the term "Little Brother" may be confusing some people at times. I am actually about 6 ft. (2 m) tall; I weigh 250 lbs. (over 100 kilograms); and I'm in my late 30's. So "Little Brother" was always meant to be a bit facetious, or tongue in cheek. But it was also meant as a term of respect for my tribal friends (and others).

Hope that clarifies things!

Hey all. Sorry I haven't posted in a while. I've had a lot of other stuff going on.

Was very sorry to hear about the passing of Chadwick Boseman. As Black Panther, he was one of my heroes. I was sorry to hear about the loss of Ruth Bader Ginsburg as well.

In positive news, I have a job! After being unemployed since January, I accepted a job offer this past Monday, and I start next week.

Apologies for the late post on . I haven't known exactly what to say.

My heart is breaking for what Black people are going through. It is unacceptable, and must stop. They need to be able to feel safe, like everyone else.

Trump's further fomenting/glorifying of violence, on the birdsite and elsewhere, goes completely beyond the pale. He should be held accountable.

My Black friends: I see you. I hear you. You are not alone. I intend to become a better ally in the months ahead.

Poor choice of CW, earlier! 

Hey guys. My apologies. I try to use the Mastodon CW (Content Warning) feature to warn of potential triggers. But in this case, I think my CW *was* the trigger!

I'm sorry. I felt really bad when I realized this. At the same time, I am learning to have compassion for myself, as well as for others. I will do better.

Take care, and have a great day, my friends! Also, feel free to give me feedback on such things in the future.

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Hey guys. Just wanted to let y'all know that I'm still here. Still alive and kicking. 😎

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't stressed out. Majorly, majorly stressed out. Yet my coping skills are better than ever, thanks in no small part to a wonderful new therapist who practices something called Somatic Experiencing. It's been a lifesaver for me. I cannot recommend it highly enough.

Have a great day, my friends!

So yeah. Life is weird right now, and scary, and tough. If your nervous system is anything like mine, it is probably super jangly right now.

One of the first steps that helps me is just to tell my nervous system that it's OK to be freaking out. Give it permission to do that.

Then pause, take a breath, and realize that we're still alive! And the world continues to spin, somehow. And the sun continues to shine -- even if it's behind some clouds where you are.

How 'bout that? 😃

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Pronouncement of judgment from Book of Daniel 

“Mene, mene, tekel upharsin. Donald J. Trump, your alternate reality has been weighed in the balance and found wanting.” Wow. This is so good! And I’m happy to say that a lot of these things have been happening for me in the last couple months. Which is very encouraging to realize!

If you’re not in this place in your life currently, I nonetheless believe you can get there. How? If you have trauma/PTSD issues of any sort, as many of us do, I recommend Somatic Experiencing treatment from a trained professional. So helpful!

Privacy violations 

Every time I reinstall Windows 10 on one of my physical or virtual machines (which is often), I feel compelled to go through every privacy setting, and set each one the way I want. There's a lot of settings, and they default to values that are much more invasive than I think they should be.

ShutUp10, from, helps pull back the curtain on this process. It helps you to see, and change, many settings that are normally hidden.

Pretty stressful overall.

@Vision Very nice to see you on the fediverse, sir.

Your final conversation with Ultron contains some of my favorite movie lines ever. “They’re doomed.” “Yes, but a thing isn’t beautiful because it lasts. It’s a privilege to be among them.”

I hope humanity lasts another thousand years or more. But yes, eventually, I imagine we will go extinct.

That doesn’t need to detract significantly from our enjoyment of today, though.

@1Spider_Man Glad to have you here! I really like your line in Infinity War: “I have thought about it. I can’t save the neighborhood, if there’s no neighborhood left to save.”

@natashar And the friendship that you and @HawKEye_2020 shared? So powerful. You each did the same thing for the other, at different times: saw the other for who they really were, the good and the bad, the beautiful and the ugly; loved the complete package of who they were, as well as who they could become; and believed in them. All without approving of bad behavior or anything.

Seriously, what greater form of friendship or love could there be?

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